Active listening is important… really important
Active listening is when parents are engaged in a conversation and are trying to understand the message their child is trying to communicate. Active listening has a host of benefits for children including: higher self-esteem, developing new skills, increases motivation to learn, and more. In this article, we will go over 5 easy ways for you to improve your active listening skills.
Facial expressions & body language
One of the easiest ways to show that you are listening is through non-verbal listening responses like nodding your head or making facial expressions in response to what your child says. Parents can express their acknowledgement through non-verbal comments like “uh-huh” and “I see”. Also, remember to make eye contact and don’t get distracted.
Reacting and responding to what is being said
Paraphrase what your child says- this helps signal to your child that you hear and understand their message by reiterating it. Make sure that you do not end up repeating word-for-word what your child has said; this might come across as annoying or insincere.
Focus on your child’s emotions
Try to pick up on your child’s emotions during the conversation. When you respond you can try using a somewhat tentative tone (kind of like ending what you say with a question mark). This way you can see if you correctly guessed what they are feeling.
Use a clarifying response
Using a clarifying response is an extension of rephrasing and reaffirming your child’s thoughts. Try responding with a broader view of the situation with solutions and ideas while pinpointing potential needs, wants, and issues. Think about your role as someone who helps process and clarify information.
Teach your child about a principle
As a parent you teach your child on a daily basis. In conversations, you can try to teach your child by linking your response to a broad principle. These types of responses can also make your child feel less alienated by letting them know that others have experienced, and learned from similar situations. Try making your response in third person to make it sound more objective!
Sources
https://www.cdc.gov/parents/essentials/communication/activelistening.html
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